The biggest sign of maturity is in taking ownership of one’s life.
This is about saying "Yes, I made mistakes. Yes, I was wrong. Yes, I could have done things in a different way."
The moment you start taking responsibility for your past, you give yourself the power to change the course of your future. This is about admitting that whatever might have happened, and whatever did happen, it was you who chose the response to that situation.
When you blame others for our past or present, the opposite happens. You hand over the power of our destination to others. You can blame your parents for your low self-esteem, you can blame your friends for your low CGPA, but at the end you are just giving up control over your future to them. By blaming you are setting yourself up towards similar future. Eventually you argue what an unpleasant job you have to be stuck in or how awful your peers are. You complain that you are feeling all alone and there is nothing you can do about it, because none of it is your fault to begin with.
We need to take ownership. But of course, a healthy balance is necessary in everything. One can never be taking responsibility of everything. There are a lot of things we should not take ownership of. A toxic person sometimes needs to be cut out of life quickly instead of thinking how you can deal with him or her in a better way. Some people and some things are just bad for you, no matter how much you try to rationalize it.
To summarize, here is a health tip, the next time you talk about a problem, finish it with some action statements. And if you find that there isn't something specific for you to do, just don’t bother wasting your breath on it. But in reality, most of the times, you can find something very specific to do about these problems. Finish the conversation by reminding yourself about that. It would make your feel less agitated or frustrated and more at ease with the reality.
This is about saying "Yes, I made mistakes. Yes, I was wrong. Yes, I could have done things in a different way."
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When you blame others for our past or present, the opposite happens. You hand over the power of our destination to others. You can blame your parents for your low self-esteem, you can blame your friends for your low CGPA, but at the end you are just giving up control over your future to them. By blaming you are setting yourself up towards similar future. Eventually you argue what an unpleasant job you have to be stuck in or how awful your peers are. You complain that you are feeling all alone and there is nothing you can do about it, because none of it is your fault to begin with.
We need to take ownership. But of course, a healthy balance is necessary in everything. One can never be taking responsibility of everything. There are a lot of things we should not take ownership of. A toxic person sometimes needs to be cut out of life quickly instead of thinking how you can deal with him or her in a better way. Some people and some things are just bad for you, no matter how much you try to rationalize it.
To summarize, here is a health tip, the next time you talk about a problem, finish it with some action statements. And if you find that there isn't something specific for you to do, just don’t bother wasting your breath on it. But in reality, most of the times, you can find something very specific to do about these problems. Finish the conversation by reminding yourself about that. It would make your feel less agitated or frustrated and more at ease with the reality.